Ethical theory has three main strands: utilitarianism, deontology, and virtue ethics. The central question for utilitarians is, crudely, are the consequences good? “you can lie if it contributes to the greater good”; the central question for deontology is, is the action good? “you cannot lie; lying is a bad action”; the central question for virtue ethics is, is it what the virtuous agent would do, and how they would do it? “the virtuous agent possesses the virtue of honesty and as a result of his practical wisdom knows when and when not to trade off honesty with the other virtues.”
In pick-up artistry we see many rules; I guess this is a bit like deontology. The problem with rules is that they are rigid, and also that eventually the woman might catch on to your patterns. I remember Roissy posting recently (cbf finding the post) about a girlfriend who caught on to his rule that he’d set for himself of always waiting twenty minutes to text back or return phonecalls (whatever). Following rules (and even canned material) too closely is a problem many guys might encounter. I have worried about it myself, but as far as I know no girls have caught on to any of my patterns of behaviour.
So instead of this rules based approach, we might take an agent based approach. This would centrally involve asking ourselves in our interactions with women: “what would the alpha male/pickup artist do in this situation/would this be how an alpha male or pickup artist would act right now?” Look at interactions and conversations and ask, “can I see [insert name of some guy you consider particularly alpha] doing this/having this conversation in this situation?”
This way your actions come from a center of alpha practical wisdom you’ve mentally transported yourself to. It’s surprising how different this makes it; you’d think it naturally fitted in to our thought process, but when you find yourself consciously doing it you’ll notice the difference.
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